This deal is so hard for me. I have always considered myself strong and confident, authentic and confident. Recently, when I really tried to get out of my head and realize how scared I was to disappoint someone. I try to show people what they want in me, because they are only the parts of me that they accept and approve of, and they hide the real me. Of course, this is because I take almost everything personally. It`s an opening of the eyes to see that… And yet, I don`t know how to change it. How can I believe that I am good enough or even wonderful enough? And if it were me, others wouldn`t see that? I feel like when I tell myself I`m doing things, another of my mental tricks. I want to feel good, but I really don`t know how. Not really.
Before, I thought I could prove it to others, and especially to myself, by running marathons, by doing my doctorate, by having the « perfect » life (marriage, children, career, travel, etc.), to be a faithful and thoughtful friend, to help the less fortunate… in fact, try to be perfect. It`s not working. I still think I`m not worth it, I feel like a scam, I`m afraid to be a disappointment to everyone. So, basically… I still have a long way to go. There are three ways to break with our old bad chords: Some of my favorite takeaways from this deal: -Don`t eat the emotional garbage of others! – Stop inflicting unnecessary suffering on me. – Choose to always follow my listening. If you hold this agreement, you can travel the world with your heart and no one can hurt you. They can say « I love you » without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask what you need.
I think all four are equally important, this agreement has had the greatest impact on my life…. This agreement is also a simple concept, but it will allow the other three agreements to become more ingrained and effective. Finally, the first three chords can only really work if you do your best. This first agreement invites us to be « irreprozible » with our words. That is the agreement on which all the other agreements are based. Just staying in this agreement can change your life. But if you don`t take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the midst of hell is the gift of this agreement. If you follow this agreement, you can be happy and at peace. If you become blameless with your word, love replaces fear. You reduce the number of conflicts in your life.
The second chord seems strangely simple: « Don`t take anything in person. » But so many of us are sensitive and defensive, designed to repel the negativity that the world throws at us. The third agreement is: « Don`t make assumptions. » Do you remember the old proverb on the word – that makes you and me? This agreement is the same idea with a more spiritual tendency.